So I began to have doubts in hindsight, even though i try to comfort her and sedate her with you know what, the labour is yet to start, the doubt comes from that does she really have a good connection with me, cause she mentioned that she never really fell in love with me, according to her she just simply grew up on me. While it is same in my case, I didn't really had butterfly in my stomach when I was dating her, but I was always really fond of her, I liked her, I liked the sex, I like how communicative, comforting and accepting of me. Question arises in my head, does it really have to be a red hot love to have it healthy? Without it, the road is all too bumpy and mistrusting? I don't know, one thing is for sure, even though I didn't have this strong hormonal temptations for her at first, I still love her. I take care of her, I worry about her, I want her to be happy and have a good life. But is it for her side? Does she want the same.
It doesn't have to be "red hot" love to be healthy.
A lot of people confuse butterflies and obsession with "real love", but those feelings are usually just the early-stage infatuation. That rush can be fun, but it isn't the thing that keeps a relationship longterm. What matters more is whether you two choose each other through actions: care, honesty, respect, effort, and showing up when it's hard.
I was in a long relationship that started as a friendship. There wasn't some magical attraction at the beginning. It was more like we grew into each other, we broke up from our past relationships in the similiar time and decided to comfort each other. It lasted for 4+ years, and even though it's not the happy ending story because we ended it, we ended on good terms and it was a mutual decision. And that actually taught me something important: real love isn't an imaginary magnet that just happens and then guarantees forever ever after. Real love is something you choose every single day you wake up.
In the years what I learnt is that it is more important to share common goals and similiar point of view about life with a person you consider to be your life partner - rather than moments of infatuation. Also, take her words with a grain of salt until her pregnancy ends - you will both regret the decisions you might make based on these.